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I don’t normally press that simple little magnifying glass on the bottom left of my Instagram feed. That little search engine can cause a whole lot of self-esteem issues. But I did, I pressed the button and my screen was immediately flooded with images of three main things that made me feel insecure…

1. Girls who I felt were much prettier and more confident in their beauty than me.
2. Girls a whole lot smarter than me because, come on, they make a living off of social media. How!?
3. Girls who are making millions off of a business they started with a blog and social accounts. Again, HOW?!

With one little click of a button, I was comparing myself with these girls and throwing my life, accomplishments, love, and appearance in the proverbial trash because of a few pictures.

There’s a reason I don’t press the search engine button a lot and it’s one of the tips I want to share with you today, tips on how to be more confident on social media. Girl, I’m preaching to myself here too, so please don’t assume I’ve got this thing figured out. Are you ready to try being more confident on social media? All right, lets see if these things can help us.

Tip 1: Be deliberate with which accounts you follow.

One step you could take to be more confident on social media would be to choose the accounts you follow carefully. I went through a social media purge a few months ago. I got rid of all the accounts that made me feel inferior. If I wished I had her body, her discipline, her life, or anything else that was hers and not mine, I unfollowed that account. Comparison is ugly and can make us lose sight of the great things we already have.

Tip 2: Focus on your own uniqueness.

The truth is, you are the only you there is in the world. There is not another girl out there with the same passions, gentleness, smarts, looks, friends, or influence that you have. Each of us has our own sphere of influence and yours is unique because you are unique. Don’t let what you see on social media take away from the awesome person you already are. Live, girl!

Tip 3: Make a list of your strengths.

If we focus on our strengths we will be less apt to diminish ourselves based on someone else’s. We all have something we are good at, an act, a personality trait, a word of encouragement only we could give or think of. Let’s be strong!

Tip 4: Be thankful for what you have.

Giiiirl, this is huge! When we are thankful for what we already have it’s a whole lot harder to be jealous about what someone else has. Being thankful changes our perspective from what we want to the awesome things we already have.

Tip 5: Know that beauty is subjective and be confident in your own beauty!

We all have a beautiful purpose in this life that only we can fulfill. You may not look like the Instagram influencer you follow, but that’s okay because you are NOT her. You are YOU. It’s so hard not to compare ourselves to others, but let’s try! I’m in this with you.

Comparing ourselves with friends, family or strangers stops us from being all we were created to be. We can’t live life wishing we were someone else when we are amazing the way we are. I have been sucked into the pull of social media and hurtful comparisons, but I want to be one of the girls who takes a stand and tries to be herself in a world that’s trying to tell me to be like someone else. I don’t want to fit a mold, do you? Let’s be unique and stop letting social media dictate our moods or make us feel less-than. The girls we are comparing ourselves with probably have insecurities too. We are all in this together. Let’s build each other up instead of tearing each other, or ourselves, down.

Remember, you don’t have to compare yourself to the girl next to you because you are YOU and YOU are amazing!

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